I got a note on Messenger from a childhood friend a while back. To be honest I could remember the name but not the face. OK, I know what you’re saying, Tim.
Let’s be honest, I am getting kind of old! I just hope my head doesn’t fall off (if you’re a fan of Dumb and Dumber you will get that).
My friend reminded me of how we dragged my small motorcycle up from the basement so we could ride. Somehow, I think my parents may not have been home at the time. He wanted to say hi and share that memory.
It started me thinking about all the hooligans I used to run with. How the hell did we ever get through it? Things we did and things we should not have. But these memories and experiences are what make us who we are today. Hopefully we are a little smarter and wiser now.
Actually, most of my high school friends are still good friends today. I am very lucky that way. Although moving to Arizona we now communicate a little less. But we still try to talk as often as we can. It doesn’t always come easy. You must work on it. But boy, it’s so worth it! Barb and I have made many new friends here, however there is nothing like talking to someone that you share old memories with. I cherish these friends every day.
You may not always agree with them and may even get mad or have an argument with them. But never give up on them. You can’t replace that part of your life history. Even if it’s only once a year, call them and tell them how much you miss them. Say, “Remember when we…” You will feel so good after that call.
Of course, now we get Facebook notices on birthdays, and updates on grandchildren. I always respond to these and refer to them as “my old friend.” We may be thousands of miles and a few years apart, still it feels good to just say hi and get the updates firsthand.
Social media is great but it’s not a replacement for that human connection. Don’t let AI write that birthday wish. Yes, it’s faster and easier to click on the ballons and plug in their name, after all we are so busy. But it’s also an empty wish.
And here’s the thing, if you take the time and go out of your way to connect, then maybe next time they will take the time. You may know it, but you’re still building memories. Any kind of connection will become a memory. You will be surprised at how little effort really it takes to connect.
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